Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts

Monday, March 24, 2014

The Perfect Match - the 3 questions you need to ask when dating...


Is big data dating the key to long-lasting romance?

Romantic couple in ParisWould your chances of finding love online be improved if dating agencies knew far more about you?
If you want to know if a prospective date is relationship material, just ask them three questions, says Christian Rudder, one of the founders of US internet dating site OKCupid.
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  • "Do you like horror movies?"
  • "Have you ever travelled around another country alone?"
  • "Wouldn't it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?"
Why? Because these are the questions first date couples agree on most often, he says.
Mr Rudder discovered this by analysing large amounts of data on OKCupid members who ended up in relationships.
Dating agencies like OKCupid, Match.com - which acquired OKCupid in 2011 for $50m (£30m) - eHarmony and many others, amass this data by making users answer questions about themselves when they sign up.
Some agencies ask as many as 400 questions, and the answers are fed in to large data repositories. Match.com estimates that it has more than 70 terabytes (70,000 gigabytes) of data about its customers.
Applying big data analytics to these treasure troves of information is helping the agencies provide better matches for their customers. And more satisfied customers mean bigger profits.
US internet dating revenues top $2bn (£1.2bn) annually, according to research company IBISWorld. Just under one in 10 of all American adults have tried it.
Morecambe & Wise with Glenda Jackson as CleopatraIf Cleopatra had used big data analytics perhaps she wouldn't have made the ultimately fatal decision to hook up with Mark Anthony
The market for dating using mobile apps is particularly strong and is predicted to grow from about $1bn in 2011 to $2.3bn by 2016, according to Juniper Research.
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There is, however, a problem: people lie.
To present themselves in what they believe to be a better light, the information customers provide about themselves is not always completely accurate: men are most commonly economical with the truth about age, height and income, while with women it's age, weight and build.
Mr Rudder adds that many users also supply other inaccurate information about themselves unintentionally.
"My intuition is that most of what users enter is true, but people do misunderstand themselves," he says.
For example, a user may honestly believe that they listen mostly to classical music, but analysis of their iTunes listening history or their Spotify playlists might provide a far more accurate picture of their listening habits.
Lovers on a picnicCan big data analytics really engineer the perfect match?
Inaccurate data is a problem because it can lead to unsuitable matches, so some dating agencies are exploring ways to supplement user-provided data with that gathered from other sources.
With users' permission, dating services could access vast amounts of data from sources including their browser and search histories, film-viewing habits from services such as Netflix and Lovefilm, and purchase histories from online shops like Amazon.
But the problem with this approach is that there is a limit to how much data is really useful, Mr Rudder believes.
"We've found that the answers to some questions provide useful information, but if you just collect more data you don't get high returns on it," he says.
Social engineering
This hasn't stopped Hinge, a Washington DC-based dating company, gathering information about its customers from their Facebook pages.
The data is likely to be accurate because other Facebook users police it, Justin McLeod, the company's founder, believes.
Man pressing "Like" buttonDating site Hinge uses Facebook data to supplement members' online dating profiles
"You can't lie about where you were educated because one of your friends is likely to say, 'You never went to that school'," he points out.
It also infers information about people by looking at their friends, Mr McLeod says.
"There is definitely useful information contained in the fact that you are a friend of someone."
Hinge suggests matches with people known to their Facebook friends.
"If you show a preference for people who work in finance, or you tend to like Bob's friends but not Ann's, we use that when we curate possible matches," he explains.
The pool of potential matches can be considerable, because Hinge users have an average of 700 Facebook friends, Mr McLeod adds.
'Collaborative filtering'
But it turns out that algorithms can produce good matches without asking users for any data about themselves at all.
For example, Dr Kang Zhao, an assistant professor at the University of Iowa and an expert in business analytics and social network analysis, has created a match-making system based on a technique known as collaborative filtering.
Dr Zhao's system looks at users' behaviour as they browse a dating site for prospective partners, and at the responses they receive from people they contact.
"If you are a boy we identify people who like the same girls as you - which indicates similar taste - and people who get the same response from these girls as you do - which indicates similar attractiveness," he explains.
Model of the word love on a laptopDo opposites attract or does it come down to whether you share friends and musical taste?
Dr Zhao's algorithm can then suggest potential partners in the same way websites like Amazon or Netflix recommend products or movies, based on the behaviour of other customers who have bought the same products, or enjoyed the same films.
Internet dating may be big business, but no-one has yet devised the perfect matching system. It may well be that the secret of true love is simply not susceptible to big data or any other type of analysis.
"Two people may have exactly the same iTunes history," OKCupid's Christian Rudder concludes, "but if one doesn't like the other's clothes or the way they look then there simply won't be any future in that relationship."

Government backed matchmaking - Japanese style - dating given $20 million boost


For the first time, Japan’s government is giving financial aid, $20 million in total, to local matchmaking programs as part of steps to lift a birthrate that is half that of six decades ago. Failure to turn that around would see the number of workers supporting each senior fall to 1.3 from 2.6 by 2050

Sources, BBC, Financial Review

Monday, December 16, 2013

A Foreign Affair - when expats date locals


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Q. On arrival at my new job-posting overseas, my boss warned me that some of the local women working in our office might be interested in dating me. He chalked this up to the higher salaries expats earn. Now an attractive, younger colleague has suggested we meet up at weekends and go for walks in the park after work. I like her and I think she likes me, too, but I am worried about my boss’ opinion — and about his warning. What should I do?
A. There are two problems with this situation. First, as an expatriate, you’re sailing into international waters and it’s not clear which culture will apply: your own, or your host country’s? Second, you’re poised to get involved in a workplace romance, which is always tricky, no matter the country.
"Tread carefully," said Amy Nicole Salvaggio, an associate professor of psychology at the University of New Haven, Connecticut, who has studied dating in the workplace. Everybody in the office always knows which colleagues are dating each other, and "a relationship between an expat and a local may attract even more attention,” Salvaggio said.
To determine what’s expected if you’re dating co-workers in the host culture, try asking around outside your office. Some companies contract with an expat-relocation service that helps overseas workers get acclimated; these consultants could also be a good resource on this issue. Or ask people at the local expat club or association. Then square this with what’s considered okay in your own country’s business culture. If the two norms clash, always err on the side of the more conservative one.
When co-workers are linked romantically, there’s always the suspicion that they’re not completely focused on work when they’re in the office. This can lead to resentment if colleagues feel they have to pick up the slack, Salvaggio said.
Even worse, “if there is even a whiff that either party is using the relationship to 'get ahead,’ expect a backlash,” Salvaggio warned. Does the local person have something to gain from the relationship, such as money, a promotion, or a plum assignment?  
If the answers to these questions is ‘no,’ and you begin a relationship, you can try to ward off office resentment by making certain your work doesn’t suffer. Put in as much face-time as before. Don’t tell your boss and co-workers that you’re working as hard as you did previously; show them, Salvaggio said. 
Don’t hide the relationship. “When the secret comes out (as it often does), your boss may feel doubly betrayed; first, because you have disregarded the advice, and second, because you didn’t trust your boss enough to be open about it,” said Salvaggio.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Could your best friend be the one? 40 days of dating




40 days of dating: Could your best friend be the one?



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Fed up with New York's serial dating scene, good friends Tim and Jessie decided to date each other instead.
The two New Yorkers decided to try it for 40 days - a time period usually associated with giving up a bad habit - and to share their experience online.
Although they undertook the experiment in April, they are releasing their photos, videos and drawings day by day so viewers can see how the relationship is developing.
Jessie and Tim spoke to the BBC about the search for true love and whether it was right in front of them all along.
Produced for the BBC by Anna Bressanin
Living Online is a series of video features published every Tuesday on the BBC News website which takes a look at how technology converges with culture, and all aspects of our daily lives.